(this blog was inspired by someone I used to know, not any of my awesum readers!)
If you are going to always put a disclaimer on the things you say, please just stop talking. So, in the future, should you find yourself beginning a sentence with something like:
I don't have to justify my behavior, but...
Don't take offense to this, but...
I'm not a judgmental person, but...
First, accept the fact that you are full of shit. Then, accept the following:
No, you don't have to justify your behavior, but you probably feel a little guilty about what you did. Otherwise, you wouldn't be trying to explain it away. Admit it.
If you think what you're about to say is offensive, it is offensive. Suggesting someone not get their feelings hurt doesn't make it any less offensive. Just own up to it and be rude.
If you're making a judgment, you are judgmental. Save us the trouble and keep your opinions to yourself.
Do you guys know people like this? I'm guilty of using these phrases in the past, and I vow to make an honest effort to stop. Call a spade a spade - and stop being such a self-righteous bitch!